1. Relationships with men in Marriage

Thoughts on Relationships with men in Marriage from a "So You're Getting Married" eBook reader.

I really found your eBook useful. It tells it like it is. Just what is needed by these youngsters these days. Too many marriages are failing and I think that there is an excessive amount of romanticising around marriage in film and media. Falling in love is great, but the dose of reality and practical advice given by your ebook, is just what is needed.

I think it's safe to say that I've learned quite a bit about relationships in my 30 years. Granted, this is not exactly considered old and wise, but I have some data to offer. In fact, I think I can offer advice to either gender. What do you want to know about; relationships with men, or relationships with women? Although I've only been in relationships with men, I can offer some valuable advice to all the women out there regarding my testosterone-driven species. So, are you listening ladies? I am about to drop some serious relationship bombs on you. Afterwards you'll know men a tad better.

Okay, when it comes to relationships with men, all you ladies should know a few things about our belching and gas-passing gender. It's actually crucial to know these things if you truly expect your relationship to last the tests of time.

First of all, we like to say what's real. This means that we hate to beat around the bush. Translated, if you have something to say or ask, just do it. Get right to the point or he may just avoid you out of spite.

So, for example, if you want your man to get you a glass of wine, then don't say something like "Wow, a glass of merlot sure would be nice right now." Your boyfriend or husband is probably just going to nod with a "That's great" look on his face and then go back to whatever it was he is doing. This is an imperative factor when it comes to relationships with men. If you need something from him, just spit it out.

Then there is the whole communication issue. Now, no offence to all females out there, but us girls are notorious for keeping quiet and holding a grudge. If something is ticking you off, just say it. If you don't, your guy will never know. He's not a medium or mind reader. Communication is imperative!

Also, there may be a few ladies out there who insist on more data concerning relationships with men. This is not a problem to say the least. There are oodles of articles online that address relationships with men. Find out what your man likes and dislikes. Discover whether or not he is truly satisfied in the relationship. Hey, all of us ladies have to do this kind of stuff, and your eBook is well worth the investment.

But, before I finish I just want to say that it goes both ways. The man will need to do the communication as well. The fact is though that from my experience the men need no encouragment when the time comes that they wish to speak their minds!

Sarah (Collins, CO)

2. Relationships Can Be Hard: A "So You're Getting Married" eBook Reader Talks

Just wanted to point out that I bought your book to read as I am going into a second marriage. Much of it was best aimed at the youngsters, but in all it was worthwhile.

If you are like me you realize you have had a few relationships problems. This is the norm, my friend. I mean come on; we all have to realize this at some point in our lives. Maybe you and your spouse don't agree on everything. Well, welcome to the club called everybody. Okay, I may have stolen that bit from Drew Carry. Anyway, this is the way it has to be. It all stems back to the fact that no two individuals are exactly alike. Hey, this is a good thing. We want diversity in our world. One thing I can tell you regarding relationships problems is that you should get assistance and advice, and your book download was useful to weigh up my own thoughts.

I personally have relationships problems. I don't deny it one bit, but I have the chance now to make good with a new start.

I have some trouble with each of the girls in my household. Whether it's my wife, my teenage daughter, or my seven year old daughter, there's always something wrong. Now I know what you're thinking at this point. In fact, the thought probably running through your head right now goes something like this; "You live with three girls? You poor bastard." I know, I know; it can definitely be a challenge at times. In all honesty, when it comes to relationships problems for me, it typically concerns my wife.

She is not exactly into compromise. This is what usually fuels our arguments. She certainly likes to have everything her way, and she has no trouble admitting it. That's just the way it is for her.  And she's not satisfied until she has her way. Well, for so many years I stuck with it. I said to myself that there is no passion if there is no anger. Am I right on this one? I did think there has to be one for the other to exist. Or at least that is what a psychology professor told me. He claimed that couples who never fight are either closing themselves off completely or simply not in love. You come to your own conclusions, but in the end I had to get out, there was no love in the end, and it near destroyed me to leave my girls.

So I was thinking that maybe I should not marry again. Your book has swayed me though. With its simple down to earth advice I am going to concentrate on making it work, and I think it can.

Now days you can acquire answers to relationships problems just by getting on the web. This is such a convenience, and I think everyone should take full advantage of it. Although relationships problems will never cease to exist as long as humans are around, that doesn't mean we have to live in the dark.

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